Do you feel lost and somehow disconnected from yourself?
It's a tough truth - your kids don’t need you as much as they used to, and suddenly, you’ve got time for yourself. But instead of feeling free, you feel off and lonely. You can’t quite put your finger on it, but something doesn’t feel right.
So you keep yourself busy, hoping these uncomfortable feelings will go away. But deep down, you know something is missing. You’re screaming inside, yet you're scared of being judged, so you withdraw even more.
You’ve prioritized your family for so long that you lost yourself somewhere along the motherhood journey.
If this resonates, know that you’re not alone. The good news? You don’t have to stay stuck there. These 5 steps will help you reconnect with yourself and find clarity in this confusing midlife transition.
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1. Connect with your intuition
Deep down, you hear a gentle whisper nudging you to stop, breathe, and listen. That’s your intuition.
Your intuition is like a North Star, always guiding you back to yourself. But when you’re busy or stressed, it’s easy to ignore. So, it’s time to tune back in.
Action Plan:
Find a quiet space, even if it’s just for five minutes. Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and ask yourself:
💛What do I need right now?
💛How am I really feeling?
💛How am I really feeling?
Tip:
If this feels uncomfortable, imagine you’re talking to a child who needs love and attention. Helloooo! You’ve been doing this for years with your kids—now, it’s time to do it for yourself!
2. Connect with Nature
Modern life is noisy. It's hard to hear yourself when expectations, responsibilities, screens, and schedules fill your day. Imagine standing in a park in the middle of a city. If there’s too much noise, you won’t hear the birds singing, right? That’s what’s happening inside you, too! All the external distractions drown out your inner voice.
Nature helps you tune back in—no judgment, no expectations—just you and the present moment.
It also stimulates your five senses, bringing your focus back to yourself and grounding you in what you see, hear, feel, smell, and even taste in your surroundings.
Action Plan:
Find the nearest green space, preferably somewhere quiet with trees or water. Schedule a short walk this week.
3. Reconnect with your younger self
Who were you before life got busy with motherhood? Yes, before that weight of responsibility took over? What made you happy? What did you love doing or being curious about? Feeling lost is often a sign that it’s time to rediscover yourself.
Let’s search your memory library for clues—gathering information about your strengths, passions, and what lights you up.
Action Plan:
Write down 3 things you used to enjoy but stopped doing. Pick one and try it again this weekend. Notice how it feels.
Tip:
Be mindful: Don’t get stuck in the past. That version of you worked then, but now, it’s time to create a new version of yourself!
4. Reconnect with your body: pay attention to energy shifts
You might have noticed that certain people and situations drain you while others energize you.
Start paying attention to these shifts.
How do certain conversations, environments, or interactions make you feel? Do they make you shrink—smaller, drained, depleted? Or do they make you expand—lighter, freer, energized?
Action Plan:
Throughout your day, pause and tune in to your energy shifts. Identify one person, situation, or habit that makes you shrink and one that makes you expand.
5. Connect with Others
Once you reconnect with yourself, you’ll naturally start seeking deeper connections with others. But this time, it’s different. You’ll set boundaries, knowing who aligns with your growth and who doesn’t.
This is where you need to step out of your comfort zone. Some people may no longer align with who you’re becoming - let them go.
Time is precious, and you’re worthy. The right people will be drawn to your authenticity. Spread your beautiful wings and become the person you were meant to be!
Action Plan:
Find a community that feels good to you - in person or online. It could be something you’re passionate about or like-minded people who uplift and support you. Start connecting!
Find a community that feels good to you - in person or online. It could be something you’re passionate about or like-minded people who uplift and support you. Start connecting!
Conclusion:
The first step to reconnecting with yourself is self-awareness. Be present with your feelings, thoughts, and body. You'll no longer feel disconnected when you feel seen, heard, and understood by YOU!
👉 Ready to start reconnecting with yourself? Sign up for the Free 7-Day Self-Awareness Challenge and take the first step today!
Do you feel lost and confused going through midlife?
As your kids become more independent, you suddenly realize you’ve lost yourself in the journey of motherhood. Relentlessly, you feel disconnected from who you are.
It’s one of the loneliest places a mom can be. But don’t brush it off or pretend that you’re okay. Instead, see this as your opportunity to rediscover YOU- the freedom you’ve always dreamed about.
In this article, you’ll learn how to rediscover yourself using the 3Rs: Reconnect, Reclaim, and Reinvent. So you can finally find peace within yourself to create the life you REALLY want!
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What does it mean to Rediscover yourself in midlife?
Rediscovering yourself in midlife is about giving yourself permission to reconnect with the woman you’ve always been—beyond the roles of mom, wife, and caregiver. It’s the key to creating a fulfilling and meaningful life in this new chapter.
Why is it essential to Rediscover yourself in midlife?
Let’s start with two powerful questions: Who are you really?” What’s your purpose in life?
Your children are old enough to take care of themselves. Deep down, you know they no longer need you to be the mommy bear. It’s a harsh realization but also a liberating one.
Now it’s up to you: Do you want to wait for life to happen to you, like an Amazon delivery? Or are you ready to get back into the driver's seat?
If you’re choosing the latter - welcome! Let’s dive into the 3 steps to rediscovering yourself.
Step #1: Reconnect
As moms, we put so much love, time, and energy into raising our children. Now, it’s time to give yourself that same care, love, and attention!
Are you ready to Reconnect with who you are? Start by being unapologetically curious about yourself. You may be wondering, "How?"
Here are some questions to help you get started:
- What makes you happy?
- Where would you like to go, and Why?
- What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to learn?
- What makes you uncomfortable, and why?
- What’s your dream?
Can you feel that spark of self-connection? Great! Now, let’s move on to the next step: Reclaim.
Step #2: Reclaim
As you continue to Reconnect with yourself, acknowledge your strengths and weaknesses. Accepting your true self isn’t easy, but this is where you reclaim your power.
Don’t camouflage or silence your inner voice. Instead, pause or slow down. See yourself through a lens of compassion. Recognize your strength, your resilience, and the beauty within you.
Reclaim who you truly are!
Step 3: Reinvent
By now, you’re starting to feel seen, heard, and understood by YOU! That’s your superpower for Reinvention.
Reconnecting and Reclaiming isn’t the final destination - it’s the foundation. Now it’s time to Reinvent yourself and write the next chapter of your life.
This means challenging limiting beliefs and creating new narratives that align with your true desires.
This is also where working with a mentor or a life coach can be life-changing. A trusted guide can help you navigate your journey of Reinvention and step into the person you’ve always wanted to be!
Conclusion
Most of us don’t realize the significance of this transition until we’re in the thick of it. As challenging as it may feel, this is also an incredible opportunity - to rediscover yourself and thrive as an empowered mom.
With the 3Rs - Reconnect, Reclaim, and Reinvent - you can transform midlife into your most fulfilling chapter yet.
You deserve to embrace this next phase with clarity, confidence, and excitement for what’s ahead!
As a mom, I used to be the person whose thoughts raced at 100 miles per hour, leaving me utterly exhausted. I didn't know how to stop the overwhelming thoughts that spun around like a merry-go-round. If you are nodding along, I'm here to help you - in case you need one TODAY!
By the end of this article, you’ll know how to create your own Mindfulness Toolkit with 3 levels of self-regulation tools to help you stay calm, grounded, and present - no matter what life throws your way.
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What's a mindfulness Toolkit?
Unlike physical tools, this toolkit is made up of the knowledge & skills you already have. It's designed to bring your focus back to yourself, assisting you with ups & downs more easily.
Consider this: constantly pulling your attention outward makes you lose control of yourself. Remember, a bird trusts its wings, not the branch it's sitting on. The most effective tools are already within you- you need to know they're there!
Recognizing signs of dysregulation
The Zones of Regulations is a fantastic guide for recognizing signs of dysregulation. It includes four zones: Blue, Green, Yellow, and Red to help identify our physical & emotional state. The Green Zone is where we want to be, and the Red Zone is where we want to avoid.
Self-awareness is the key to creating a one-of-a-kind toolkit that helps you ground yourself in the present moment. Let’s dive into making your own!
3 Levels of Strategies in Your Mindfulness Toolkit
Level 1: Easy
These strategies are quick & easy and can be applied anytime, anywhere, even while reading this article! Some examples of these strategies are taking deep breaths, drinking water, snacking, getting fresh air, stretching your body, taking a short walk, 10 pushups, and much more.
These simple actions can help you get back to the calm state, the Green Zone.
Level 2: Moderate
Moderate strategies require more time, creativity, and planning. These activities, which you enjoy, connect you with your authentic self. The key is cultivating your curiosity.
To help brainstorm ideas, consider:
- What do you enjoy doing?
- What makes you genuinely happy?
- When do you lose track of time?
- What are you naturally good at?
- Which one do you prefer, physical or interactive activities?
Some activities include gardening, hiking, dancing, cooking, reading, painting, swimming, exercising, and much more.
While these require more time and effort, they can be proactive self-care tools to stay or return to a calm state.
Level 3: Extreme
Now that you have some ideas, let's explore the final level of self-regulation tools - these strategies push you to step out of your comfort zone.
They will be challenging, but the reward is ginormous when you commit yourself to time, effort, or consistency. Activities like back-country camping, a variety of training, and cold-water plunging and swimming fall into this category.
There are times when you'll need these tools. They cultivate greater peace and resilience with consistent effort, helping you slow down and be present with yourself.
A little hack: Consider what makes you uncomfortable - the things you KNOW could benefit you or have always been curious about trying. Stepping out of your comfort zone shifts your focus on you. While these strategies demand discipline, their lasting effects on your ability to stay mindful make them incredibly worthwhile.
Conclusion
In conclusion, creating your one-of-a-kind mindfulness toolkit is not just about finding quick fixes; it's about cultivating a sustainable practice of self-regulation that helps you navigate daily challenges with grace and resilience. By understanding and utilizing the three levels of strategies—Easy, Moderate, and Extreme—you empower yourself to stay calm, even when the world seems overwhelming.
Many New Year's resolutions fade within a few months. Have you ever wondered why this happens so often? Two main reasons are lack of clarity & deeper purpose or meaning behind the resolutions we set.
If you're serious about positively changing your life this year, the following 12 transformative questions can help you craft New Year's Resolutions that stick. Let's dive in!
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6 Questions to clarify your New Year's Resolution
Q1: Why do you want your goals?
Understanding your motivation is key. Consider what dreams or aspirations you have for the new YOU. Embrace your emotions, even if they're uncomfortable. They'll help you with resilience, especially when you're just about to throw the towel into the ring.
Q2: Is your goal achievable, considering where you are now?
Setting overly ambitious goals can lead to discouragement. Find a sweet spot: not too easy or too difficult. Next, reflect on your time and energy after work, family obligations, etc. Self-awareness is the key. Be honest with yourself and adjust your goals accordingly.
Q3: What emotions would you like to feel when you achieve your goals?
Visualization is a powerful tool. If you struggle with picturing the outcome, focus on your desired emotions. Close your eyes and let your body experience those feelings.
Q4: What obstacles might you face in achieving your goals?
While the thrill of achievement motivates, preparing for potential setbacks is crucial. What's your plan for tackling obstacles? Being proactive about challenges leads to success.
Q5: How will you measure your progress?
Defining a target number or timeframe gives you a clear goalpost. Clarity leads to a greater chance of success!
Q6: Who do you need to become to achieve your resolutions?
This reflective question is critical. Achieving your goals involves evolving into a better version of yourself. Describe three adjectives that embody the person who fulfills your New Year's resolutions.
6 Questions to Maintain Your New Year's Resolutions
Q7: How will you remind yourself to take action?
Research shows that forming new habits takes 18 to 254 days to become automatic. Find an undeniable reminder to ensure you won't make excuses for forgetting. What do you look at regularly that can prompt you?
Q8: Who or what holds you accountable?
Having an accountability partner or making yourself accountable to someone or something increases your likelihood of sticking with your plan. It motivates you to act even when you don't feel like it.
Q9: What will trigger for you to take action?
In "The Power of Habit," it's explained that introducing a new habit is easier when you build it on an existing one. For example, after dinner (an existing routine), you could take a walk (a new habit).
Q10: When and where will you take action?
Set a specific time and place for your actions, aligning them with your routine for the least friction. This specificity reinforces consistency. For example, I do strength workouts in the kitchen while I cook instead of going to the gym.
Q11: What reward will you give yourself for taking action on your New Year's resolutions?
To encourage consistency, incorporate fun and motivation into your plan. Rewards can be tangible items, experiences, or fulfilling emotions. You'll evolve, and so will your reward. What would inspire you to keep pursuing your resolutions?
Q12: How often will you check your progress and adjust if necessary?
It is essential to track your progress and celebrate small wins regularly. Decide whether daily, weekly, or monthly check-ins work best for you, and celebrate each milestone along your journey!　
Conclusion
In conclusion, these 12 questions serve as your guide to meaningful New Year's Resolutions that stick! Embrace them with intention and an open heart. With clarity and purpose, you have everything you need to step into the new year confidently. Visualize your growth, commit to your dreams, and make this your most transformative year yet! Remember, the best part of your life is ahead of you!
Transformation often feels foreign to many of us midlife moms, yet we dream about it. We subconsciously tell ourselves that transformation is only for the lucky ones. This limiting belief kept me trapped in a cage of self-doubt and fear.
At the end of the day, you might find yourself in the mirror, hoping for a change. Sorry to deliver bad news - no one can change your life but you. To change your life for the better, you must first transform yourself.
Your past doesn’t define you, and I know you’re a strong woman capable of making a difference in the future. I want to support you with the 7 ‘tion’ steps to transform yourself and your life.
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Understanding Transformation
Let’s explore what transformation means. It simply means a change - whether in how you look, think, or act.
We often fall into the trap of believing transformation must be monumental, but it’s the micro changes that lead you to the desired outcome. In Japan, we say, “Chiri mo tsumoreba yama to naru,” meaning a mountain formed by accumulating tiny dust.
Every step you take shapes your transformation - let’s dive in and make it happen!
Step 1: Attention
The first step is to pay attention to where you are in your life. This might be uncomfortable, but there’s no transformation without clarity. The most critical aspect is connecting with yourself, nature and others to raise self-awareness.
This step emphasizes self-care, which you’ve been neglecting. Soon, you’ll start hearing a small voice or feeling a gut instinct to help you make the right decisions.
Step 2: Intuition
Once you connect with yourself, nature, and others, you’ll notice intuitive signals—whether whispers, a gut feeling, spiritual animals, or bodily sensations. These are your intuition's navigational tools. Believe in yourself and trust your intuition.
Always listen to your heart/intuition rather than what’s in your head!
Step 3: Imagination
Tap into your inner child and embrace the power of imagination. Ask yourself ‘what if…’ or ‘I wonder how…’ questions. Be curious about your infinite possibilities. Imagination is your best tool to awaken your dreams!
Doesn’t it make you excited just thinking about it?
Step 4: Education
Your dream may require new skills and knowledge to make it happen. Although this may be daunting, consider this as an opportunity to open new doors. Invest in your growth to become a better version of yourself, rather than spending on things that don’t even matter for your exciting journey!
Become a lifetime learner and be the person you have always dreamed of.
Step 5: Determination
Your determination is the key to taking consistent action. Ask yourself, “Why do I want or need to do this?” Your answer will fuel your motivation even when challenges arise.
Make a commitment not only to yourself but also as a way to inspire and uplift others.
Step 6: Execution
With clarity on what you need to transform, you’re equipped with goals, plans, and determination. Now, it’s time to execute. Take action and stay flexible, steadily working towards your desired outcomes.
Every action plan needs completion to see a result!
Step 7: Celebration
Celebrate every win, no matter how small. Acknowledging your wins keeps the momentum going and boosts your self-esteem.
Hug yourself, pat on your shoulder, or congratulate yourself as you would the best friend: “Great job!” “You did it!” “I knew you could do it!”
Conclusion:
If you wish to transform your life, you must first become the person who can achieve the life you desire. The 7 ‘tion’ steps—attention, intuition, imagination, education, determination, execution, and celebration—will guide you on your transformation journey.
Remember to stay flexible and adjust the steps according to your needs. Only you can create the life you REALLY want!💕
