It might be time for a midlife reset if you've been feeling stuck, lost or restless lately. Midlife can feel like standing at a crossroads—with more questions than answers and a quiet fear of what’s next.
The kids are growing up and need less of your attention. The days feel emptier, but your head won’t stop spinning. And when you think about the future… You feel uncertain, even scared.
Maybe there’s a belief deep down that whispers:
- “It’s too late to start anything.”
- “I’m not young/smart enough.”
- “I’m just a mom. What can I do?”
Let me gently challenge that belief: This is not the end. This is where you reset yourself to thrive.
You are not lost—you’re in a transition. And it’s okay to feel unsure right now. But don’t let fear trap you in that cage.
You’ve spent years showing up for everyone else. Now it’s your turn. Time to get back in the driver’s seat, reclaim your voice, and rediscover who you truly are. This isn’t about just feeling needed—it’s about feeling alive, lit up, and fully in charge of your next chapter.
In this article, I’ll guide you through 3 powerful steps to help you reset yourself in midlife: Learn, Unlearn, and Relearn.
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Step 1: Learn where you are
Before we begin, think about the last time you intentionally learned about yourself. Your answer may be “I don’t remember.” That’s totally normal.
The reason you’re here reading this? You’re feeling friction in your life. Let’s get curious and dig deeper to learn what’s underneath it and discover the root cause.
Most often, it’s the limiting beliefs inherited from role models—especially from our mothers or other female figures. The culture we grew up in also plays a big part in shaping our belief systems.
We tend to think, speak, and act on autopilot—especially when our subconscious mind is in control. So we need to reset those limiting beliefs by asking a powerful question: “Why?”
Examples of "Why" questions
At age 48, I had a deep fear of going gray. I hid behind hair dye, worried about being judged. One day I asked myself these questions:
- “Why am I scared of going gray?”
→ Because gray hair means old and unattractive. - “Why do I care so much about how others see me?”
→ Because I want to be liked and fit in. My parents cared about meeting societal expectations. - “Why do I color my gray hair to look young?”
→ Because my mom, aunts, and adults around me did it - as if it were a requirement.
Can you see how my subconscious kept me stuck?
Here’s the critical question: “Is that true?”
Once you start asking “why,” you open the door to Step 2: Unlearning.
Step 2: Unlearn to reset your mindset
Limiting beliefs are tricky. They disguise themselves as “truth” and convince us of what we ‘should’ do.
Now that you’ve uncovered a few of yours, it’s time to sort them into two categories: Keep or Let Go.
When you answer those “why” questions honestly, your body and intuition will tell you what to keep or let go. Pay attention to your heart—it tightens when something doesn’t align with your truth.
As my distant mentor Mel Robbins would say, this is the “Let Them” phase—time to let your old limiting beliefs go.
Step 3: Relearn to Reset in Midlife and Thrive
The unlearning stage simplified your belief system—now it’s time to rebuild from a place of authenticity.
Like the previous steps, relearning starts with curiosity and compassion. Ask yourself:
- What makes me happy?
- When do I feel most alive?
- What am I naturally good at?
- Where is my happy place?
- Who do I admire and why?
This is the most exciting part of your midlife reset. In this stage, you start to feel seen, heard, and understood by yourself.
And that clarity? That’s the key to resetting your life in midlife and writing the next, most exciting chapter of your story.
Conclusion
By learning where you are, unlearning what no longer serves you, and relearning who you truly are, you’ll reset your life in midlife—not just to survive this chapter but to thrive in it.
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